We are social animals, we tend to form groups, everyone has
a group of friends where he’s comfortable and can hurl as much abuses as he is
capable of. Also, no matter how much creepy the teasing gets, one has to imbibe
every bit of it. Groups can’t be completed without that person who gets teased
the most, the guy with the best relationship advices (but oddly he’s still
single), the guy who gets virtually-raped every year at holi…
The
sort of person that I am going to talk about is the mix with shades of a
sycophant and a person with a clean image. This person is not bad per se; has a
decent level of self-respect, may connect with you with ease, and may be the
most talented…..but one thing’s for sure; he’ll be sanguine and charming as hell
in his conduct. I am sure you all have
one or two acquaintances possessing these traits. As common as this trait is,
as such, it is also not tough to demarcate such qualities in a person.
When given a task, this person takes on the responsibility
with utmost sincerity even if the task is not his cup of tea. Saying ‘NO’ to
something wouldn’t cost him anything, but for him, saying no is the only one
thing he can’t do. He may fail the task, but renouncing the task is the last
thing on his to-do list. I believe that quitting the task and honestly accepting
the truth is much better than having to give explanation later. That’s why I
look upon such persons with a little caution. There is no shame in
relinquishing a little control.
Another scenario where presence of such individuals hurt
most is when the person is at some higher position and one seeks help from him.
Instead of just clearing his stand, he would give a false impression of trying
to help; but instead, in reality, he’s just making you visit him over and over
again. It seems as if their motto is “Promise today, equivocation tomorrow”. In
India, the babus are infamously
popular for such acts. Be it the kutcheris,
banks or any ‘Sarkari Suvidha Kendra’,
wherever you go, you are queued to be victimised. Indian governance system
isn’t un-swayed by this.
Then
there are individuals who can’t deny a favour to a friend on face but try to
gain sympathy of randoms by talking behind his back. C’mon yaar, Be a MAN (or
Be a wise woman), I strongly suggest you to talk about why you can’t grant him
the favour, or why you can’t do his work,; may be he’s a better person than you
and he might understand your situation. It’s better to be strong first and say
no than having to make efforts to placate the lost friendship and be off the
hook later.
I have seen some girls who don’t quite enjoy the company of
certain individuals around her, but she can’t get rid of them, because she can’t
have ‘the conversation’, or in simpler terms can’t say NO to them.
Thereby, I am running a collective request to such
individuals to please understand what I am trying to say and think about how
easier your life can be after you work on the advice.
